All About Adventure

30 May 2010

Kigali, Rwanda

Someone recently said to me, “You are in Africa, don’t take that fact for granted.” It made me think about adventure and adventuring. I have 4 short weeks left before I head to that other continent (where adventure seems so easy), and I sometimes forget where I am. It’s so easy to forget that I’m actually somewhere different, somewhere that I should savor every moment. The excitement that accompanies international travel has sort of worn off, and I’ve become complacently comfortable in my surroundings. The boulevards lined with palm trees, the roundabouts filled with well-kept shrubbery and monumental fountains, the mild weather, the sunny skies and mid-70s- sometimes I think I’ve been hoodwinked, that they just sent me to L.A.

This week was difficult, dealing with the hardship of internship, the firm hand of Biblical law, and the arbitrary administration of justice- I caught myself falling into the trap of what I have previously referred to as “mzungu problems.” And then I realize that I am in Africa, and it gives me some perspective. I remember my first few weeks here, the wonderment I experienced about this culture, and how naïve I must have been. I remember the women’s group that I met. The phrases “make your bed” and “soap and salt” start to mean something again. And now that I’m floating around Kigali, completing an internship and committing youthful shenanigans with the socioeconomic elite of Rwanda*, the theme of adventure has gone unexpressed, at least consciously. The point is that I’ve become less naïve; at least I’d like to think so. And ignorance is supposed to be bliss.

So adventure means something else now. On Monday nights I go to trivia night at one of the “mzungu restaurants” in town. It’s within walking distance from our house and they sell beer for twice as much as truly local restaurants. It’s a beautiful atmosphere- ivy covered lattice and a spectacular view of the city at night, lights sparkling on the hillside. An Italian man owns the restaurant, and they serve excellent pizza that far exceeds my daily per diem. On Mondays, and most other nights, the restaurant is filled with expats, mostly NGOs workers and specialists from the West. Table after table is surrounded by a group of national homogeneity. I’m not attempting to degrade these groups. They’ve found comfort in one another and in the recreations of Western culture that Kigali offers in the form of a large shopping center and a variety of over-priced restaurants. In many ways, they are experiencing this culture, and know it better than I do. I respect them. But when I look at the people I sit with, I can’t help but feel a sense of pride. On Mondays, Morgan and I make the walk to Sole Luna from our house, usually early to secure a good table. And we don’t sit with expats. Since I’ve been here, one way or another, I’ve connected more with a group of Rwandans than I have with most other expats, not to say that I don’t have expat friends. And I’m proud of that fact. I don’t mean to objectify those friends, or make them trophies of some kind that say I’m culturally sensitive, because, in most ways I’m not. That’s what makes our friendship so meaningful to me. I’ve found some great friends here. And when I look around the table on Monday nights, I look at people with whom I can laugh, and joke, and talk about politics and philosophy, and trivialities at the same time. I don’t look at people whose nationality makes them more conveniently similar to me. In that I find adventure. For most of my life I’ve been surrounded by cultural homogeneity. And now I’m completely out of my element. Somehow, though, I’ve found people I connect with on a level that far exceeds superficiality. Somehow, on the other side of the globe, in a society that has until now been completely foreign to my existence, I’ve begun a great adventure. And that adventure is more than safaris and the Nile. This adventure is deeper and more personal. I’m in Africa and I’m learning to remember that, to savor every moment, and not just every moment that sounds good when I tell it to other Americans when I return to the States. I savor the moments for myself, when I’m yelling at Sunny about Rwandese politics or eating a whole lot of pork, and still not eating as much as everyone else. All of these experiences, however insignificant, remind me where I am. And being in Africa really is an adventure.